When we first decide to embark upon a transformation or fat loss journey, the only thing we think about changing is the body but really we should be starting with the mind. It's your mind that will carry you through hard gym sessions and testing moments with food. The body will follow the mind so this needs to be the strongest part and will determine how well you do with your fat loss or transformation. So the first step is actually deciding in your mind that you're going to change. We know that change doesn't happen over night but that's why we call it a journey, there will be times where willpower is weak, you make the wrong decisions or you get influenced by the wrong people but as long as you get back on the right track and learn from these bumps you can carry on to your destination.
Also, YOU have to make the decision to change, not your wife, partner or friends making the decision for you. It has to be YOU! You will know you are ready to do this when it becomes a burning desire and you can't stop thinking about it. This doesn't just happen with your body, this could apply to a job that you are unhappy in or a relationship that needs changing. When you really want change, you don't wait until New Year's Day or for next Monday, you take action as soon as possible and begin your journey because you can't wait to start! That's when you know you're ready.
"Why so serious" - The Joker
When you start this journey the biggest obstacle is FEAR. Fear will make your good intentions go away, make the excitement of a challenge into something serious and not fun or fear can just talk you out of your intentions. Fear talks to you? Yes, it talks to you. It's the voice in your head that tells you it's too hard, I don't want to fail, I can't afford it, I haven't got time, etc. We all know fear. All of us have experienced it. We start to conquer our fears as children and become paralysed by them again as adults. As children we conquer all types of fear. Can you remember being afraid of the dark? The question is were you really afraid of the dark or was your mind making things worse than they really were? At some point you realised there was nothing to be afraid of but you made that decision yourself, no matter how much your parents told you there is nothing to be afraid of and gave you positive reinforcement, you only believed what your mind allowed at that time. Then as a child you make your first decision to change and you're no longer afraid of the dark. The dark is like change and that is why we fear change. Just like fear of the dark you don't know what's coming next, you can't see what's ahead, it takes you out of your comfort zone and all the things you know. In the same way this is why we fear change. You begin with small steps and you feel your way through the process, you will hit objects, you may even take a fall but you keep moving forward then your eyes start to adjust and things are becoming clearer now, you can see the light switch and realise it's not all that bad. This is exactly the same journey you will take with every fear you encounter . You just have to decide to make that change. Having made the decision to change there will be fear. It could be the fear of change itself or failure or success or what others may think of you or "am I too old" - the list is endless. The worst that can happen is that things will stay the same. The real key to life is to just keep moving forward and having a life you want and deserve. Don't let fear paralyse you. Face your fears and conquer them. It may not happen the first time or the second but it will happen if you keep trying.
"It's not who we are underneath, but what we do that defines us"
- Rachel Dawes - Batman Begins
Underneath, we all have some fear but the difference between success and failure is to start anyway. To help with the process of change we need to be working towards a goal. Most people fail because they can only see the end result and not the steps that need to be taken in between. How can we increase your chances of success? We set daily and weekly goals and use the power of the compound effect. All these little things we do regularly on a daily, weekly, monthly basis will all help you accomplish your end goal. You can read more about the compound effect in a book called "The Slight Edge" by Jeff Ohlson. The small things we do consistently will become habits good or bad, but we want you to build good habits for your goals. So even if your first goal is to drink at least 1.5 litres of water a day you will be installing a new habit slowly. Same as if you decide to train three times a week as your goal for that month, that is progression for your fat loss and health goals. Slowly you are creating habits for your success and these small goals are keeping you moving forward the whole time.
"Why do we fall? So we can learn to pick ourselves back up"
- Alfred - Batman Begins
There will be times where you have a bad day or are in a situation you can't control fully and you may not hit your target that day. This will happen and it's a good thing because it's another opportunity for change and learning. There will always be stumbling blocks as noted above like being in the dark, there is always a chance of falling over but what's the worst that can happen? We move on and in recognising what has happened we make the necessary changes to continue.
That is the point of failure - to find ways of not doing it so we can find a way that works. Remember, it's your journey towards success and everyone's will be different.......but that's what makes life interesting!